This Doesn't Shock Me
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Tera Patrick
Adult film actress Tera Patrick has written a book about her experiences, but the release of this book is gaining some notoriety for what her ex-husband has to say about her:
Tera Patrick’s ex-husband, Evan Seinfeld, is striking back at her claim that he chose continuing to do porn over his marriage to her. “I’m very grateful to have worked with her, but I’m disappointed in the way she’s handling things,” Seinfeld told us. “It was a very amicable split, so this feels like a cheap shot.” Seinfeld, who starred in HBO’s “Oz” and who produces events for Hell’s Kitchen strip club HeadQuarters, adds, “While it was great that we were the ‘First Couple’ of porn, the fact is Tera hates the industry. She’s not a sexual person. We barely had sex in our own marriage. She’s desperate to break into the mainstream, and just wants to generate press.” He continued, “I didn’t choose porn over her. Our marriage had a lot of holes in it, despite what she claims. I chose freedom.”
Adult film star Tera Patrick gave her porn star hubby Evan Seinfeld an ultimatum — their marriage or his steamy screen career — and he chose porn, she claims.
In her new memoir, “Sinner Takes All,” Patrick recounts how she told Seinfeld, her husband of seven years, last summer that he had to give up starring in X-rated films if he wanted to stay married to her. (Patrick herself had not shot a new video since 2006.) After Seinfeld chose the flicks, the couple split in September.
Writes Patrick: “I said to Evan, ‘I’m your wife, and that is the strongest bond two people should have, and that should come first. I’ve moved on from porn. And I want you to stop. You promised me you’d only do porn for a few years. Your few years are up.’ “
The Herd Mentality and Social Networking
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
This herd can stomp on your garden, sir
It's been my experience that rude behavior on Twitter is swiftly punished. That's what that "block" option is there for--to effectively block the behavior of others that is anti-social. If you're getting on Twitter to screech at people and fight, you can count on losing your account within hours--it's really that good at effectively destroying the "trollery" of others. Twitter has seen various examples of this, and it really boils down to children getting on there to curse at adults, nothing more.
Last week, a 're-tweet' called for help in defending @RealScottBaio from a bit of trollery, so I added my two cents worth:
@xryk It's been my experience that @RealScottBaio is an upstanding gentleman, so please allow me to formally block you for being a #jackass
@Cynicor You're a scumbag. You're the worst kind of troll there is--no ethics or values.
I took my shots, and I blocked the users that were behaving like trolls, and then I let it go. It's really that simple. When someone is being a jackass, you hit them and block them and go about your business. Always maintain your composure, where possible. Mr. Baio was attacked by a man who used various documents to publish Baio's mother's home address--how sickening is that? I added my parts because I wished to defend a member of the community. I had my say, and it was freely offered. Mr. Baio does not need to be defended, but he was defended by a community enforcing standards of conduct. That's fair to me.
In Britain, a tweet got a man into trouble when he called Stephen Fry "boring." The abuse leveled at him by the larger community was virulent and cutting. This is because Mr. Fry has a massive "herd" of followers while Mr. Baio has himself around 3,500.
And the matter would have rested there, probably, if not for the fact that Mr. Fry, a much-loved figure who has spoken openly about his crippling depression and about being bipolar, has more than 934,000 followers and is one of the most widely read Twitter users in Britain. His much-publicized tweetsin February, about being stuck in an elevator for 45 minutes, did as much to raise Twitter’s profile here as the photograph Ashton Kutcher posted on Twitter of the rear end of his wife, Demi Moore, did two months later.
When Mr. Fry’s followers heard of his distress, they tended to do two things: offer their support and criticize his perceived antagonist. And suddenly Richard from Birmingham, who says on his Twitter profile that he writes “one-line movie reviews, and more,” found himself the target of a stream of unpleasant, even abusive, tweets. Among the most upsetting, to him at least, were those from the well-known British actor and comedian Alan Davies. Mr. Davies, who is a friend of Mr. Fry’s and has more than 104,000 Twitter followers, called Richard a “moron,” and worse.
The story was then picked up by a variety of news outlets, including the BBC and The Sunday Times.
The ganging up on Twitter against people who have somehow run afoul of others has become increasingly common here. The same thing happened last month when the journalist Jan Moir wrote a column in The Daily Mail criticizing the lifestyle of Stephen Gately, a gay member of the pop band Boyzone who was found dead at 33 in his vacation apartment in Majorca.
Many people — including Mr. Fry — believed that the article had homophobic undertones, and said so on Twitter, where Ms. Moir then became one of the topics of hate du jour. An organized campaign helped ensure that her article led to about 23,000 formal complaints to the Press Complaints Commission of Britain.
I've already covered that story, and while I decry any kind of herd mentality in social networking, I do note that sometimes the herd gets it right.
Is Fry boring? That's not my call to make. If I were to say it, I would offer some evidence and back it up. What would that prove or accomplish? If he were to release something that especially offended me, I would criticize it, and try to do so fairly. Or I would defend him from such criticism. That's all done within the greater boundaries of blogging and civil discourse. I wouldn't use a picture of him being used to give an enema to an elephant--that would go too far, plus, that would take several hours of fooling with Photoshop, and I'm not inclined.
I wouldn't run from a screaming mob if I did take an exception to his work. I never have, and I never will. I do think that people who love his work and admire him can sometimes go too far--this is called a fanboy mentality. I would add, though, that it takes a lot to gin up the outrage of fanboys. Putting the lid back on that boiling pot is next to impossible. No one should incite the herd to attack. In Fry's case, I think it evolved more from how wrong people perceived the criticism to be. That's all well and good when you only have a few thousand followers. When you have nearly a million, that herd can stampede on a moment's notice. Even if only a few hundred people become actively engaged in hurling insults, it can feel like a tidal wave.
Sometimes, the self-regulating social community can fairly and quickly enforce a behavioral standard that is missing in much of our interaction. Any idiot can go on any blog, and I know this because I've done this many, many times, and unleash a string of invective and hurl insults at someone just because they're weird or wrong. This anti-social behavior sometimes find a way to get corrected fast when a community of people enforces a certain standard. Is that a good thing? Or is it a tool for wannabe-Fascists? Well, that depends on the herd, doesn't it?
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Email Article Chuck Norris Finds You
Friday, October 30, 2009 
Chuck Norris has more Facebook friends than you do. Chuck Norris wrestles with bears (see video below). Chuck Norris is a hunter. Chuck Norris is never taken by surprise. And Chuck Norris knows exactly where you are, every second of the day.
Don’t believe us? Try this. Navigate over to Google. In the search field, type the following phrase: “Google Chuck Norris.”
But instead of hitting the search key, try the button that reads, “I’m feeling lucky.” Google will tell you that no standard web results were found. It will also tell you, in bright red font, that “Google won’t search for Chuck Norris because it knows you don’t find Chuck Norris, he finds you.”
It’s true, folks. Chuck Norris is a master of the 21st century digital landscape. No obstacle is too high. Chuck Norris, for instance, has over 5 million fans on Facebook. That puts him in the upper echelons of Facebook’s superstar culture. How many Facebook friends do you have?
Being a badass myself, I can certainly relate.
When Will Privacy Rights Make a Comeback?
Friday, October 9, 2009 
My personal opinion is that privacy rights are due to make a comeback. What we have lost by become paranoid and fearful is our right to be able to have a measurable degree of privacy. Think about this the next time you do anything--at any given time, as you go about your daily life, your financial transactions, who you call on your personal phone, your physical image as you walk under surveillance cameras, everything you do online, and everything you do that touches upon your health care are all scooped up and databased and stored for someone to use against you if the state decides that it needs to prove you may have done something wrong.
How does it feel to know that the state has very little heavy lifting to do in order to prove you could be circumstancially guilty of living your life? How would it feel to have not committed a crime but to be convicted of it based on a series of coincidences that were assembled by invading your privacy?
I'm not an advocate of allowing people who break the law to go free; I think that the burden of proof on the state should not be eased by eliminating privacy rights in this country.
In the case of Mel Gibson, determining who leaked details of his arrest are not "life and death" matters. This was not "careless talk" that could have gotten someone killed; this was a revelation about a celebrity that was no one's business and yet hardly life or death. There is no public interest in knowing what a crazed, inebriated celebrity says, nor is there any reason to trash the privacy rights of someone who receives the details of what that same celebrity said. No one was murdered, no one stood to be murdered, nothing heinous was in play. But the extent to which the state went to find out who did what in Gibson's case exceed any standard of common sense, and violated privacy rights we didn't know we had lost:
Media law experts and journalism groups expressed outrage Thursday that Los Angeles County sheriff's deputies obtained phone records from a notable Hollywood gossip journalist during a leak investigation, calling the action a serious violation of the reporter's rights.
Several said they believed that sheriff's investigators violated state and federal law when they obtained a search warrant for the records of TMZ founder Harvey Levin as they tried to identify who gave him details about Mel Gibson's anti-Semitic tirade during a 2006 drunk-driving arrest.
"That's illegal," said Lucy Dalglish, an attorney and executive director of the Virginia-based Reporters Committee for Freedom of the Press. "Most law enforcement agencies know it's illegal . . . or have a hard time getting a judge signing off on it."
Dalglish and others said such actions threatened the independence of the press and its role as the watchdog of government.
"You can't have a government agency that is supposed to be monitored by the press investigating the press to find out where it got its stories," said attorney Terry Francke, an expert on media law.
The media are too late to the game. They failed to tell us what the Patriot Act was really taking away; the American people assented to having their privacy rights stripped from them. There is no sympathy for the media anymore--there is no working, adversarial media anymore to speak of. The judge that authorized the invasion of Mr. Levin's privacy is merely operating in the ethical blind spot created by murder, mayhem, terror and fear. All so that the police could find out who told the celebrity gossip press, not the actual working press that is supposed to be a check on government, what Mel Gibson said in a public place in a stumbling, incoherent drunken rage.
Life and death? No. But they did it because they could, because there's never any check on the power of a government charged with keeping terrified people safe.
They Finally Caught the Dirtbag Who Made the Erin Andrews Video
Saturday, October 3, 2009
Erin Andrews, ESPN
The FBI says they’ve arrested a Chicago-area man who is accused of taking surreptitious nude videos of ESPN reporter Erin Andrews in a hotel room.
The bureau says in a statement that 48-year-old Michael Barrett of Westmont, Ill., was arrested at Chicago’s O’Hare Airport Friday night.
The FBI says Barrett faces federal charges of interstate stalking for taking the videos, posting the videos online and trying to sell them to celebrity Web site TMZ.com.
I realize that the FBI may have other things going on, but it's nice to know that they've made an arrest in this case. This is a piece of good news, and something worth starting the weekend with.
The End of Letterman?
Thursday, October 1, 2009 
The twilight of David Letterman's career isn't going so smoothly, is it?
In an uncharacteristically personal revelation for David Letterman, the host took to his "Late Show" stage Thursday to admit that he was the victim of an extortion attempt -- and acknowledge that he has had sexual relations with more than one staff member.
According to a press release sent by Letterman's PR reps, the host first received a package three weeks ago from someone who claimed to have information about alleged sexual relations he has had with female employees of the "Late Show."
The individual threatened to go public with the allegations unless Letterman paid the person $2 million.
Letterman told his audience on Thursday that he contacted the Manhattan District Attorney's Special Prosecution Bureau. That led to a sting operation, in which Letterman met with the individual and handed the person a fake $2 million check. That person was arrested on Thursday.
"This morning, I did something I've never done in my life," Letterman said on Thursday's edition of CBS' "Late Show." "I had to go downtown and testify before a grand jury."
As part of the testimony, Letterman admitted that he had engaged in sexual relationships with staff members.
"My response to that is, yes I have. Would it be embarrassing if it were made public? Perhaps it would," Letterman said. "I feel like I need to protect these people -- I need to certainly protect my family."
A Letterman spokesman would say only that Letterman would have more to say on Thursday night's program.
In a statement, CBS said, "Mr. Letterman's comments on the broadcast tonight speak for themselves."
I commend him for not allowing himself to be extorted. That took courage and guts. But when you make a mess of your life in public, I guess the only thing left is to sit and wonder how long it will take for the lawyers and the accountants and everyone else to clean up the mess. Letterman's political opponents--pretty much anyone he's ever made fun of--will seize on this as proof that he's a hypocrite. How many years did Letterman milk the references to Monica Lewinsky, anyway?
You know, once you make hay, night after night, joking about a man who had sex with a powerless staffer, I really don't think you can then turn around, after having sex with more than one staffer, and come back with those jokes without creating a whole lot of tension in a room full of people who are paying attention. Let's face it, Letterman without a Clinton sex joke is Letterman with yet another joke about Cher, and who really wants to hear that while the band shrieks, bleeps and crashes off cue?
I really would like an answer to this question, though. Who hasn't figured out that you don't have sexual relations with the hired help? Never, ever, pee in your own sandbox. Always find a discreet way to satisfy your weird urges. I'm trying my darnedest to help most of you weirdos out there--it's called Safe For Work Hotties, and it's the only way a good Episcopalian can look at the better porn stars without going to jail or getting fired. I work tirelessly to help--it's because I care. I really, really do.
Letterman doesn't care. He's doing everything in his power to go out like Arthur Godfrey or Danny Bonaduce. Everyone wants to go out like Johnny. Pretty much everyone ends up going out like Tom Snyder.

















